Life Stuff

Don’t lose yourself in adulthood

Take a moment to think back to when you were a child. Remember how carefree you were? Remember how you had such an amazing imagination where something as simple as a cardboard box could be turned into a day of fun and laughter?

Something happens to many of us when we become adults. We lose that childlike wonder for the world. We get so wrapped up in all of our responsibilities that we lose that simple joy that was once such an integral part of our lives.

Of course, the reality of it is that life isn’t the same as when you are a child, and it never will be, but that doesn’t mean we all need to throw in the towel on our imaginations and joy and become mindless working drones who care about nothing but bills, investment portfolios, and schedules.

I don’t have children, but something that many of my friends who do have children often say is that the best part about having kids is that they get to experience things as if they are new from the perspective of their child.

Children are a reminder that amazement and joy in small things does exist in this world.

Why do we adults lose that as we age, and how can we get it back?

The reality of it is that you’re never going to be able to live in the carefree manner you did when you were little. It sucks, but it’s true. You do have the responsibility of putting food on the table and a roof over your head. Your actions do have consequences and it’s important to act responsibly. That being said, why do we all have to be so serious all the time?

Do we really need to play the news 24/7 and listen to people argue about politics and the state of the economy all the time?

Ask yourself this: Will it change anything?

If you are going to spend time worrying about everything, try to take a step back and ask yourself, “will it change anything?”

Will it do any good to worry about it? Will worrying about it make things better or somehow help the situation have a better outcome? If the answer is no, then you should try and let go a little. If your worries won’t make any difference in the outcome, then it won’t help to worry at all.

It’s important to vote, and it’s important to be informed about what’s going on in the world, but at the same time, your happiness and well-being are also important. If you’ve looked at the facts and decided on who you’re going to vote for, great! Turn off the TV and go outside. Go for a walk, ride a bike, paint a picture, read a novel. Enjoy yourself! You deserve it! Your life will be richer and happier for it.

Adults tend to lose themselves under the weight of all the pressures and responsibilities in their lives, but it’s important to take the time to love yourself as well. When you’re old and you look back on your life, do you want to look back fondly on a life spent enjoying the things you loved and spending time with the people who are most important in your life, or do you want to look back on a life of worry and regret?

I get it. The struggle is real.

Life is hard. Really hard. If it was easy, we wouldn’t need to have these kinds of discussions. Sometimes it’s important to just take a step back and decide to actively pursue happiness.

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