Have you ever been in a situation where you just can’t take it any more, but you feel compelled to stay in your current situation out of fear? I think this is something everybody experiences from time to time in their lives.
For example, say you’re at a job that makes you miserable. You want to make a change in your life and in your career but you’re afraid of what might happen if it goes wrong, so you stay because it’s easier to do so. You know that if you continue on as you are currently living, you’ll continue to have an income and your bills will get paid. If you take a chance on something you really would rather be doing with your life, you’re unsure of how it will turn out. That seed of doubt keeps you in your situation for much longer than you would like, sometimes even for years.
Perhaps it is a relationship you are unhappy in, or some other life obligation you have gotten yourself into. You know you’re miserable and you dream of improving your situation, but fear keeps you paralyzed, unable to make the necessary decisions required to move forward and change your situation.
Here’s the thing…your life is controlled by a series of decisions. Every day, everything in your life that happens is the result of a decision that was made at some point. What you’re doing at your job and your life…those are all the results of decisions that were made, and everything that you are going to do in your future will also be the result of decisions, starting with what you decide today.
In order to craft the life you want for yourself, you have to be willing to proactively make decisions that are in your best interests. If you don’t make decisions for yourself, you can be assured that others will make decisions for you.
If you hate your job and you don’t decide to take proactive steps to change your situation, your boss will decide to keep on assigning you the work you loathe so much. If you are in a doomed relationship and you don’t decide to be brave and move on with your life, your significant other will make the decisions about your future together on your behalf.
If you are out of shape, you have to proactively decide to do something about it every single day. You have to get out there and eat right, exercise, and put in the work required. This is something you decide every single day. If your finances are out of control, you need to decide to take steps every day to get them back in control. You have to decide not to over-spend, not to use your credit card, and to cut back on extravagances. You decide. You take control.
Proactive decision making is taking control of your life. It is looking at your situation and deciding what you want for yourself and your future, and having the courage to stand up and make a choice for yourself. Yes, it can be scary, and yes, sometimes it can go wrong. However, if you consistently make decisions in your own life and take action on the things you want the most out of your life, you will be pushing your life in the direction you want it to go.
You will achieve things you never thought you would achieve, and you will look back on your life in five years and wonder why you didn’t take charge sooner.
Risk is a part of achievement, and nobody who has achieved success and happiness in their life has done so without risk.
Be brave. Stand up for what you want out of life. Proactively decide to make positive changes in your life starting today. You will thank yourself in the future.